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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/17/2021 2:24 am
Are You Pushing Your women into the Arms of Another man?


men are often left wondering what went wrong when their relationships fall apart. They don't understand what happened because they don't recognize their role in the dissolution of the relationship. Even if they don't realize it, men often behave in ways that push women away. Suddenly, after months or years of the same destructive behavior, they are amazed that their relationships didn't work.

men with low self-esteem and insecurity issues often try too hard to keep a women. By trying too hard, they inadvertently push away the women they are trying so desperately to keep. men who are insecure are usually clingy and controlling. A clingy man may follow his women around never giving her a moment of solitude. he has to accompany her everywhere she goes. he may hold on to her arm with a death grip that is certain to push her out the door eventually. Clingy men may also cry right on cue every time his women tries to have any alone time. he may suddenly become ill or make another excuse to keep her home . A clingy man makes a women feel smothered and may push her right into the arms of another man.

The controlling man treats his women like a and makes her feel as though she has two fathers. he tells her how to dress, drive and behave. he may even choose her clothes and her friends for him. The controlling man tries to keep his women by controlling every aspect of her life. However, his controlling nature will make it difficult for him to keep any women for very long..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/17/2021 2:41 am

Some men simply talk too much. he wants to talk about anything and everything just to hear himself talk. If his partner is silent, he may interpret her quietness as anger. he may bombard her with questions or statements about her silence. "Are you mad at me?" "Why aren't you talking to me?" "Did you hear me?" "Why aren't you answering me?" The constant chatter can be enough to drive a women crazy. Just because she doesn't feel like talking doesn't mean she is angry. However, being mad may make her angry

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Tmptrzz 59F  
106043 posts
11/17/2021 8:58 am

Well said thank you so much I couldn't agree more, but it does take two to make a good relationship work, with lots of communication. Happy Hump Day to you..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


windsjohn 70M  
783 posts
11/17/2021 9:24 am

Well I pushed her away.. But she didn't go into another man's arms. I wish she did.. She went to "Don't touch me" after the clinging of the kids got to her. Totally frigid.. doesn't even want to kiss. I just gave up and came here.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/17/2021 6:12 pm

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One reason a person may still be single for years on end...or forever, is because they are an a**hole. Having an attitude towards others and being rude to people is a surefire way to scare people away. Check your own behavior! Want to remain single? Be a jerk. Simple

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:23 am

He talks, but doesn't act
People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.

He disappears a lot
If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.

He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person
Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen.

It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:24 am

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Other sign can be added
•Dissapear a lot
•Not pick up the phone while he/she is online and chat. (No respect at all mumbling ) so many excuses
Especially if you are using video cam call
•Speak in low tone nearly whisper when he/she answering the phone call
•You are chatting alone, sent a thousands words but the answer reply only 3 words " good morning babe" frustrated
•Not interest to know abd asking about your life.. Not curious or eager like a normal new relationship
•While chatting, he or she replied only one sentence then dissapeared , back again to read and answer later in 5 hours or in the next day.. laugh
•Not interest to answer or skip most of your questions
•Video call is an agony and it is only 10 min.
•Interest only if talking about Sex or intimate parts.. But it is only for 15 min if the chat was failed to stimulate his hormones.. rolling on the floor laughing

Moreover, what can be expected ? except to remove them , because it is waisting time and energy and ofcourse upseting frustrated

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:25 am

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WHAT ABOUT THE SIGNS SHE IS PLAYING YOU ALONG LIKE THIS RUSSIAN SO CONVINCING AND SUCH GOOD PHOTOS OF HER WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY WATCH OUT FOR HER

BEST SCAMMER I HAVE MET FOR YEARS

SENDS THIS AS HER ADDRESS FIRST

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:26 am

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All of this article can also apply with women who are playing with men. People are often not who they claim to be these days.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:28 am

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I know a few things you can do.
Look for inconsistencies in what he/she says about themselves.
Keep in mind that not all those "women" are even women. Some of them are MEN and they dont give a gosh darn in heck whether you get hurt or not. OR they might actually enjoy it. Further, sometimes those "women" or even "single men" you are talking to are MORE THAN ONE MAN. You might even be communicating with a group of men.
Most people know how to snatch a pic from online and post it as their own. So much for that.
Marriage..frustrated How many times do i have to tell you people about marriage?? HOW MANY TIMES?
Just dont do it. Marriage is an invitation to control you, in ways you cannot even imagine. Marriage puts your money AND LIFE in danger. Just because you're not being told about it for various reasons does not mean it's not happening all around you.
If marriage "keeps your spouse from just walking out on you if they feel like it" then imagine what it's going to be like to live with somebody who WANTS to walk out on you. Or what if they leave you cryin and bleedin in the corner while they go out to a bar and ohhhh you never expected this! Well NOW you got to get a divorce! If you CAN.
I CAN EASILY DO A FEW MORE PAGES, but i'll leave it at that.
Oh-well i cant let this one go though. One more.
If he/she is BLAMING YOU for stuff you know is not your fault, for ANY reason like, they "had a bad day" or it's "PMS" you had better run WHILE YOU STILL CAN!
Ok with great reluctance, im going to end it here.
Good Luck! handshake
And if you get married, you're gonna need it!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:29 am

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You are so right! May I add, beware of the $75000-$100000 salary figure they love to display and pics that taken on the subway.
***Most important if they readily don't want to converse on the site after three messages but want you to give up your phone number before they do, shut it down. They up to nothing good.***

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:29 am

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We all know this was started by woman, I wonder if this topic was addressed towards women playing men online, be some interesting comments lol, good chance the post would be removed, or changed towards People online

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:30 am

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i am a busy man seeking a good woman,, but it means that no woman wants a true loving here,, i am a busy man but still has time eve in and outside my working hours... but i have not any good woman yet,,, how do i get others to know that i am real and i need a real woman too???

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:31 am

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Best advice and all of that fact are true.
Experience will lead you to the right track..
Men who behave as these... Shame on them don't they?


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:32 am

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How about if she won't talk on the phone
Wants you to send money before you meet her
Expects you to give out personal financial information (accounts number passwords and such) on the second email
Has photos that are flawless and always tells you how handsome you are when you know your kind if a goober.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 1:34 am

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Boy ... how true ... i might be up in years but my mind is good ... i get stuck with this a lot of times... women are so good at it .. when they don't get the upper hand on you ..they scream out blue murder .. some just like to dangle you on a string ... i get tired of money hits ... i know a lot of guys are scammers and fakes .. but there are lots of women in that boat too.. just be aware ... i can read most now .. and just move on .... good this is out there to remind others .

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 11:43 pm

By the time you are forty, you have probably reached a certain level of emotional maturity that you did not possess in younger years. In addition, you will have accumulated greater baggage. Your knowledge and bias based on past relationships is bound to influence your experience of dating when you are a more mature dater. However, if you use balanced knowledge wisely, and understand how previous dating situations might influence you, there is no reason why dating in your forties need not be rewarding.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 11:44 pm

Mistakes you do not need to make again
If you ever dated someone who showed signs of being poor relationship material before and suffered the consequences, now is the time to cash in on what you have learned. Usually, when someone seems like a bad egg, he or she is a bad egg. In the past, you might have thought that you could transform your crummy date with love and understanding. However, now you know differently and can leave such a person where you find them, safe in the knowledge that having a relationship with him or her would have been a disaster.

In addition, there will have been occasions when you dated people who developed into bad partners. Your relationships started out looking promising, but went downhill rapidly, until you were dumped. Dejected and sad, you sat around wondering what was wrong with you instead of recognizing what was wrong with them, or simply that you were poor matches and had grown apart. These days, you can spot warning signs that your relationships are unhealthy before they develop into heartache


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 11:45 pm

Baggage
Emotional baggage can be a burden if you do not recognize it and take steps to manage debris from the past. Previous relationships that went wrong might have left a sour taste in your mouth. The result is likely to be that you are wary of bonding with anyone new and suspicious about his or her intentions and behavior. Luckily, you have the power to deal with the fall out stemming from past relationship blunders.

Recognize whether you hold any grudges against previous partners. If simply thinking about someone fills you with remorse or anger, you probably have not closed the chapter that occurred when you parted ways. Maybe, you can remember arguments in full or cannot look at photographs of you together without feeling emotional


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 11:47 pm

There are several actions that you can take in order to get over relationship memories that make you blue.
You can imagine that the person in question is in front of you, and tell them how you feel. Get all of your angst and repressed feelings out by saying them aloud. Allow yourself to become angry if this is how you feel. However, when you have said all you need to say, verbally forgive the individual and decide to conclude that you want him or her to lead a happy life without you. Letting go will free you and help you enter new relationships with a clean slate.

Nonetheless, if you still feel the burn of old relationship pain, make sure that you are aware about how your past might creep into present dating situations. For example, if someone cheated on you previously, recognize that you might become jealous, possessive, or paranoid. If you notice such emotions occurring, ask yourself if there is any real evidence to support your concerns. Try not to jump to conclusions, and do give your new partner a chance to prove him or herself before you react to circumstances that you might have judged incorrectly


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/21/2021 11:48 pm

There is no reason why beginning new relationships cannot be fun. Bring knowledge gleaned from the past to the fore, and do not let past experiences hinder your perception. You might just discover that dating in your forties is superior to dating when you were younger

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/23/2021 1:36 am

Push yourself out there
Don't sit around at home waiting for something to happen. It won't. This is your life. You are in the driving seat and you are the only person that can make things happen. Although pushing yourself to do new things now that you haven't got a partner by your side to help you through your worries is difficult, it is important to tackle your emotional barriers and get out there. Do what you've always wanted to do, even if it seems small. If you've always wished that you could be a talented artist, sign up for an art class. If you've worried about your weight in the past and have always wanted to do something about it, take out a gym membership. A sudden and dramatic change in your life, such as the end of a relationship, can offer you wonderful opportunities for new life experiences. Grab onto them and you'll soon realize that the future has so much to offer.

The end of a relationship doesn't need to cause an end to your happiness. Reconnect with family and friends and discover the new, confident you. You'll be amazed at how resilient you are and how quickly you find joy again


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/23/2021 1:37 am

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I was dating online someone for four months and it was good relationship and he was working I think he was, but I feel that letting him go was right thing, Even though it pains me, Best not drag him to my home and eat him like some dragon lady I can't be something scary...I have to move on, and keep trucking...crying

I still feel that painful sting... why did I let him go, But I think he find someone better than me. Maybe fitter. She take care of him and his family, She be in local. sigh

I am not local to anyone nice.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/23/2021 1:38 am

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Breaking up is hardest for the person left behind . People invariably assume if you're a woman that you're partner cheated or walked . Women are empowered nowadays don't have to or won't stay in a damaging relationship . If you're feeling more sad than happy its time to leave........living on your own has lots of positives as anyone who's being on their own for years will testify . It's the feeling of needing to have someone that leads people to hook up with unsuitable people. It's why people stay in unhealthy relationships .....they're scared of being alone

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/23/2021 1:39 am

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I thank God for my aggressive self after my separation. I hope and i pray that i make it with my baby.Thank you for this

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PonyGirl1965 56F
21351 posts
11/24/2021 11:12 pm

You are so right! We all have some responsibility for the downfall of a relationship.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/25/2021 8:19 am

You no longer feel as though you genuinely like your partner:
There are many different signs that you no longer like your partner's personality or their contributions to your life. Perhaps spending time with them has become a burdensome bore to you, or when you think about them you have stopped smiling and feeling a warm glow of affection. You might find every little thing that they do to be deeply annoying rather than endearing, and you may find that even the sound of their voice has started to grate on you. If any of this sounds familiar, it is highly likely that you no longer even enjoy your partner's personality and companionship at the level of friendship (let alone romance)


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/25/2021 8:21 am

Talking about the future feels awkward and forced:
Planning for your future should be exciting and should fill you both with hope. If talking about where you will be in a few years makes one or both of you feel uneasy and sad, this is probably because of a shared sense that the relationship should not or will not exist in a few years. Similarly, if imagining staying together makes you feel dread and depression rather than a sense of optimism, perhaps your feelings of love have been worn down by the relationship's superficiality or by constant interpersonal struggles. It is also worth noting that if you cannot even picture a future with your partner at all, this is probably an indicator that you're aware of how incompatible your long-term desires and needs really are.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/26/2021 11:42 pm

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I agree that both sides need space and that discussion of all things is the most important part of a relationship but getting angry and upset is surely something which happens because of a lack of communication.peace

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/26/2021 11:46 pm

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I need time to calm down before I can discuss things if I'm upset to that point. I'm pretty easy going- but sometimes a complete lack of awareness of what is going on in another person- or worse yet, complete disinterest- frustrates me to no end

I communicate worlds better by text, email or other written words- because I can find the exact word that doesn't overstate or neglect what I'm trying to get across

In real conversation however, I am usually torn between getting my point across in a fast manner- & finding the right words. Hence, sometimes I come across a lot stronger than I intended.

Women too need Women time & alone time & have work & tasks & cannot answer texts or phone calls whenever

I think a lot of that article applies to both sexes- & my experience would add that it would be a benefit to many men to listen more-

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:19 am

Is he into you or are you just a booty call? Don't agree to a "friends with benefits" arrangement expecting more in the future. It probably won't happen, and you may very well lose a friend in the process.

Although some hookups evolve into real relationships, they are the exception. Guys who are into booty calls usually just want to have sex without spending much time or money. Inevitably someone hotter will come along, or he may actually fall in love with someone else. When that happens, you are history.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:20 am

Warning Signs
Determine whether you ever actually go out on dates. Whether he asks and you accept or you ask and he accepts, it's all good. However, if he only texts you late at night and never calls, he's keeping his emotional distance from you. Keep in mind that it's possible to text someone while actually talking to someone else. If he only contacts you to get together on short notice, it's a sign that you have a low priority in his life, and you are probably being played.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:22 am

Notice what happens after you hook up. If he cuddles you before falling asleep, you're probably fine. Rolling over and falling asleep is not necessarily a deal-breaker. Sex is physically demanding for men; falling asleep afterward is more about exhaustion than how he feels about you. However, if he jumps up immediately after doing the deed to check his email, or seems anxious for you to leave in the morning, that's a bad sign.
You may have more at risk than having your heart broken with casual hooking up.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:24 am

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I respectfully disagree with some of this outdated article.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:25 am

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Before any man take a ride on my booty, they better bring authentic medical records.

If they do, it could be a sign that they will be ready to be in a committed relationship

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:26 am

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It's always best to get to know someone before opening your legs

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:27 am

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Sadly it's fact of life today You won't be able to tell in advance whether you know them a day a week a month or a year . They are commitment phobic sad creatures who just like the thrill of the chase . They end up alone and forever looking and thinking it's bad luck they're still single never married no kids .if he's a bachelor and over 45 yrs he's going to stay that way . If he's 50 plus and a bachelor and you're looking for long-term run run run .Lots of them online on dating sites with sob stories of why they never married or had kids . It's cos they're too selfish or screwed up no matter what kind of spin they put on it . If he's very good looking has money run even faster in fact don't even bother looking he's a player .

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:29 am

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i agree . this happened to me just recent . i was freinds with a guy for little over three yrs .and we talked about everything . the problem with it is i felt like a dumping ground. he had more than one female freind he was hanging out with . and i did not care until i started really like it and we went to far one night and he did not care the next day

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/28/2021 5:30 am

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If time and time again you are attracted to a certain "type" and the results lead you to be played, used as a booty call, or hurt in general, I think it is time to change your tactics and not seek out that type of person. If these things have happened to you, then you should be aware of the signs and be able to see them coming long before you are hurt.

I have been hurt a few times. I've been played and used. I don't really have a particular "type" of woman I seek out, just "particular qualities in a woman I seek. I think I have honed my senses thru my experiences, and I have become pretty good at spotting a bad one at a distance

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/30/2021 4:03 am

Missing is not a small word for what i felt when my love is not around... missing can't describe the pain, when seconds seems like hours, hours seems like days and days seems like century... days seems endless and night seems like never ending nightmare... at first the concept of your love being with you is so strong that you feel them with you, looking at you, sitting/standing at several places.. when talking to someone you came to a point where you think that if he would be here , he would have said that and just that mere thought make you smile but you also feel pain inside growing along with it... sometime you feel alone altough you are accompanied by many... some time you just want to hug your love but he is not there, you want to cry on his shoulder, you want to tell that you can't bear his absence BUT you can't, you never can instead you only think it wuld hurt your love more to know that... sometime you just want your day to be ended so you would go home and share things with your love but when you reach home he is not there, the person who make house THE HOME is not there, the place you live is so empty without him that feeling is so painful even i lost my words to explain that.. when love is not around you forgot when you last eat something... you don't feel like eating.. as the day passes by, light falls into dark another thing start coming to haunt you, increase your agony... how you gonna sleep without love... you try to shut your eyes but you can't make yourself go to bed , because no one is there to kiss you good nite, no one to hug you while you are asleep,you can't feel the warmth of your love beside you...it's like hell where you are helpless, then you decide to sleep at love's side of the bed, and hug a pillow like he used to... and this is only the story of one painful whole day... don't know how many days are there more to suffer... but you know you have to manage not for you but for your love... because at the end of the day, he is the only one who does matter the most.. missing you like hell

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/30/2021 4:07 am

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in your singlehood you can find someone and be sure, not to jump in too quick, of who you want and the qualities he must have, so he'll be there for all your life, as you'll be there for all his life.

True love is honest, and real, and must not be wasted on wrong person. It will be cherished by the one who values honesty and true love, and knows true faithfulness and loyalty is a must.

Honesty becomes true love, and built into these two is faithfulness and loyalty, no matter what. When you know someone have these four qualities, then you can finally be a real couple. Love will grows and grows and in no time at all, your empty hole fills with true love from your self and from your love, who gives his loves to you and back and forth grows and grows and never dies.

I seek these also. It's very rare. No worries

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/30/2021 4:08 am

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i read your article, thats realy touches the depths of heart. you describe the real emotions of the heart. its realy a great article. God may bless you

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
11/30/2021 4:10 am

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This is so deep! And yeah, it's a tough deal when your love isn't (or can't be) with you. Probably most readers here have felt this at some time. And the truth is, people don't function normally when separated from their true love, but rather under some sort of disguise of normality - a cover-up or as best they can under the circumstances.

What I do is recall and keep in mind the good moments - even when you want that shoulder to cry on imagine your love is there for you. Your love resides in your heart and nobody (nor distance) can take that away. So keep it fresh, keep their memory close and love THAT they are, not where they are. As the saying goes, if it's true love, they will return to you, if it wasn't they surely never will.

This may seem a bit etherial, but it is one way to cope ... doubtless, there are other ways.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/2/2021 4:47 am

Whether you are newly involved with your partner or you have spent a year or more together already, you may have already had an argument together. Arguments are unavoidable, a natural result of the friction that occurs when two people with different mindsets enter into an intimate relationship. It is possible to choose your battles however, and knowing how and when to make this choice is vital to the health and longevity of your partnership.

The saying goes that prevention is the best medicine, and this is just as true when it comes to the health of our social connections and relationships. By observing how you and your partner interact, you should be able to pinpoint issues that act as triggers for argument. If you live together and regularly leave the dishes piled up in the sink or neglect other household chores, changing your habits and doing your part around the house will probably lessen the friction between you and your partner. Arguments are often triggered by mundane issues such as these. Even if you're not living with your partner, there's still the possibility that you do something that annoys them when you're together.

Of course, prevention doesn't always work. Some habits simply can't be broken, and there will always be at least a few issues that the two of you cannot agree upon. This is only natural. After all, you're two different people with different tastes and different ideas about the world. The fact that you're in a relationship together does not mean that you have to become one in mind. However, these differences can act as catalysts for conflict if they are not recognized and put into perspective.

The best way to avoid unnecessary arguments is to create understandings regarding small issues that are likely to cause some friction in the future. Subjects like schedules, planning, and cleanliness can easily be agreed upon given the right attitude. By talking about these possible problems before they become problems, you and your partner can save the fighting for the important issues.

And rest assured: there will be fighting. No long-term relationship can avoid it. By saving your energy for the really serious subjects, though, you can avoid the risk of fighting over things that are not worth the effort. If you've spent the last few months finding ways to address those issues beforehand, you and your partner will also most likely be more inclined to settle your major differences through negotiation and compromise rather than by accusations and insults.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/2/2021 4:50 am

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Very good subject matter and reasons for possible conflicts. I think this article should be issued to people contemplating marriage to think about before entering marriage, and for young couples just starting out as well. These suggestions listed here are also a safe substitute for marriage counselling as well.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/2/2021 5:17 am

Spend time with your date.
Often times, people rush into long-term relationships without first spending an adequate amount of time with their partner. You should never commit to a relationship with someone you do not completely know. You can avoid a bad relationship if you spend time with your partner in between date nights.

If your partner has a busy schedule, be creative with ways to spend time together. If your partner makes up poor excuses why he or she can not spend time with you, reconsider the entire relationship. People who make poor excuses early in a relationship are not ready for a long-term relationship.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/3/2021 1:06 am

Instinct: It's always good to trust your gut. If you've got a bad feeling about him, you're probably right. Something is probably wrong. However, it might not necessarily be cheating. There could be something else bothering him. Instinct can usually only detect if something is amiss. It tends to miss on the details.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/3/2021 11:30 pm

It is also important to remember to come from a place of trust. Don't accuse her of infidelity. If you don't trust her, you're probably coming from a place of insecurity and nothing she says will help. Trust her, and come to her with your concerns. Talk it out. Don't treat her as an enemy – treat her as she deserves to be treated.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/3/2021 11:32 pm

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I've been cheated on by both male and female guess it's a roll of dice finding anyone else serious

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/3/2021 11:33 pm

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Men cheat more often than women by a mile! Where r u getting yr info?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/3/2021 11:34 pm

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Women are way bigger offenders! Interesting article I wonder which 'sex' drafted this article?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/3/2021 11:35 pm

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You've touched on all the necessary points and finished with good advice. I replaced the genders in my mind while reading it since I won't ever be cheated on by a man.
Thank you for the efforts.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/3/2021 11:36 pm

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This should be on 'Is your lady cheating?' Since it is found time after time that more women cheat in a relationship than men do...!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/5/2021 3:29 am

Another important question to ask yourself is just how committed you were. People speak freely of commitment, but the word is frequently used with little thought. If you enter into a relationship you must be determined to work on it. A relationship evolves and changes and requires attention and effort. Your partner must come first, not your career or your hobby. When people break apart claiming they wanted different things, what they usually mean is that their career, or their dreams of emigrating to a new location, meant more to them than their partner. A relationship needs to be maintained and worked on. Perhaps you enter into relationships with unrealistic expectations. You must be prepared to tolerate a great deal, everything from unpleasant smells to bad moods or poor table manners. Every relationship has its bad periods. Relationships only work when both people are committed and prepared to tolerate these bad spells. Communication is essential. Did you really understand your partner and what made her angry or disappointed?

Contrary to what many believe, the strongest relationships entail a certain amount of detachment. People can quickly feel stifled or suffocated by their partner. In any relationship, not just a sexual one, it is vital to give the other person space.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/6/2021 1:55 am

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I know there are some very good points with why some relationships fail, I donot have a great track record myself. I grew up as a fat kid, life was hard at school and home. I grew up not letting girls know I like them as if I did they themselves would be teased so keep my feeling to myself. This way of life I took into young adult hood so when I like a lady I didn't let them know as then I didn't want to lose a friend, me thinking they would run a mile from me. Over the years there have been some truly gorgeous ladies I fell for, not just talking about there bodies here, they were so beautiful in their hearts. I just didn't let them know I liked them as I still carried the fat kid way of life with me. I am grateful for having such beautiful friends at the time.
I have tho jumped in with all four feet so to speak and been married twice in life and have two divorces to go with them. I have some awesome kids a dad could ever hope for tho now still live life on my own.
I feel with a lot of relationships when two people get together it is all great at the time, we think we may know each other well and in some cases this might be true. I think any relationship that is love only will not last, it need real and true friendship.
I look now at it as the earth is the friendship, love is the roots of the tree, if there is a soild base of friendship for love to grow then the relationship has the best chance of living. when there is strong winds and storms, as in arguments and mis understandings if the love is held strong then the relationship will survive. If the relationship is love only then when the same storm hits it blows at the tree, any friendship, ( earth), maybe moved and even if the relationship lives it is weaken so when the next storm comes or the one after there will come a time when love is lost and if there is no real friendship to hold it together to re new love then the mighty tree falls and dies, as does the love and the relationship.
If people want to help keep love strong also keep their friendship strong, I do hope to share love and life with someone again one day, and have a friendship that is just as important a long with all that goes well in a relationship. I maybe way off base with my thoughts, being single for so long now I forget what it is like to have a friend let a lone a relationship... I am not sad or lonely tho... just living life with what I have...

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/6/2021 10:27 pm

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This article is true and having failed a few relationships, I can see where I went wrong and where my partner, boyfriend went wrong.
I have to say that more times than not, it has been his fault I have left a relationship, and i wonder to myself "Will I ever meet the man I really want in my life?" I am ready to accept flaws in my partner but I believe in give and take and respect. Respect tome is as important to me a love is, without respect, there is no love.
I also love sex, but more than sex, I love cuddles and holding eachother and holding hands and That has been a main issue in finding someone to show his feelings! I wonder if a man can actually demonstrate these feelings without thinking of sex!
Well I haven't given up on the male species yet!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 12:09 am

Men claim many women online are playing mind games. They say women dodge and weave and conversations with them become confusing. Are my women folk letting my team down? Are they really as shallow to talk to like these men are saying or is this just a good pick up line? Am I the only women that feels this way or are there others also able to converse well...?
I'm no bimbo and can hold down an intelligent open conversation about many topics personal or business and not easily led. It generally doesn't take me long to smell the B/S and diplomatically deal with it.

I'm under the understanding that there are more single women available in world than men. If this is so and the statistics are correct, then surely men have a greater number of women to pick from than women do. Perhaps this is part of the problem... maybe the men are taking advantage of this statistic or maybe some women are feeling like
they are competing with each other and are a little more fear driven than men.... or perhaps men aren't giving women enough time to thaw out before reacting????.... Hey.... just throwing possible explanations out there....??????? nothing in concrete....

If anyone out there, both men and women, can shed some light or are able to relate to what women are saying, please give me some feedback, as they really like to hear about others perception on this men and women and relating thing.

Been online for just a few short weeks and have found many good men to converse with out there.
When ever woman chat with men in the first few minutes... have found them to mirror my open mind and heart, so breaking the ice is done with more ease (more often than not).... perhaps this is why women getting such a gr8 response.... it may be that they live in the moment and mirror what they are dealing with in the first few minutes and that sets the pace of how the connection takes place.....................................sheeeeeeeesh..........
Woman could think about "WHY IS IT SO" all day but woman must admit, this experience have got them a little baffled and very curious for some feedback.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 12:16 am

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I just wanted to quote a line from an Edie Brickell song:

"Philosophy... is talk on a cereal box,
Religion... is a light in the fog.

"Philosophy... is a walk on a slippery rock
Religion... is a smile on a dog."

I don't know why these four lines always make my eyes misty. I guess their power of truth.

The other thing I wanted to say was the mighty ducks group photo.

Oh, and that I worked as a cashier for a passenger-ferry boats company. Our name was "Ferry Docks", and I always put the name on the deposit slip for the day's take as "Ferry Dogs". Nobody ever reprimanded me for it. Maybe everyone just more interested in the money beside the deposit slip than in my budding literary creativitism

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 12:18 am

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Complexity can be sorted out. Stupidity and incoherent compostition can't. So infinite complexity and incoherence have one thing in common: Hopelessly incomprehensibilty by man.)

What I mean is that to say "women play games" is a perfect umbrella expression to say "I'm too poor, fat, ugly and old to intgerest women. At first they act interested, but eventually they retract all the promises while they were still (falsely) believing I was nice, debonair and intelligent." Men can't say that, really, can they now. So they say "women play games". To the point, completely meaningless, and everyone understands it.

It's time we stood up, over our heads, and being over the overstanding, we won't be understanding to people who are in over their own heads with their lies

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 12:23 am

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Some have different perspectives of what mind games are .So many terminoligies of who thinks what ,,

Y Can think that Z has played mind games in a reality situation ,a scenario being confused Male askes Female in a pub iff she wants a drink , both just met as strangers in pub etc ,, Male a bit of a pratt , loud, gods gift , sleasy , boring ,, then asks female iff she wants a drink ,, ( female in safe company with her friends he in his Male company } she refuses as she thinks he"s a toss pot and on the pull for anything ,, she politely refuses but gives in after his obsessive wont take no for an answer campaign ..

After she has finished and bored with said person , leaves the pub with her friends ,, Male for some reason then thinks because he hasnt even been given her telephone number has been used ,, some Male logic or something
Apparently she is into playing mind games rolling on the floor 😀

Moral of the story confused

Always tears before bedtime

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 12:28 am

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I would hazard this: if these men are just encountering you out of the blue, and they have no preconceptions about your motivation for chatting with men online (like they haven't read on your profile that you're looking for intimate, deeply romantic discourse) and yet they just point blank start with the sex talk, and stupidly interpret your discomfort as "head games", then it's just a case of stupid men projecting their own desires onto you, with absolutely no merit or good cause for any confusion that might ensue.

If you are, however, putting out there that you're looking for a way to connect sexually with a man through the internet,and a guy starts casually, and after a while works his way into that subject, and you try to sidestep it without clearly saying why you would do so (like explaining - maybe you're just not really feeling this guy, and you're humoring him to be polite) - and assuming that his tactics aren't crass or lewd, but maybe just suggestive and somewhat charming . . . then the guy has some grounds for being confused. After all, men aren't mind readers - if you are beginning to think or feel something, better to say it, because trying to use hints, or being coy - especially for a prolonged period of time - can be easily construed as "mixed messages", "confusing", "games". This happens a lot to guys, it's happened to me, and the women who do this usually have a real problem with just saying "I don't want to get with you - nice, chatting, but maybe we should stop." So instead they pretend they're feeling it when they're really not, and this lets a guy continue to spin his wheels, thinking maybe he has a shot.

The real question is, what ultimately do you want to get out of the conversation? Are you looking to find someone you can meet in person and date? Or just looking to have conversations with people online? If it's the former, then expect men to pick up on that and get dizzy if you deviate from that course. If it's the latter, then you'd be keeping all of your conversations rather platonic, wouldn't you? And there'd be no reason for anything to get confusing that way, unless the guys you're talking to are just plain dumb.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/8/2021 10:56 pm

What is the best way to handle such things as replying to her texts, apologizing for hurting her and so on..

When seeking to repair a relationship you must retain your dignity. Most men find a weeping, begging, needy woman a huge turn-off, and women are no different. WoMan do not find a man who cries and pleads for them to return flattering. Instead, the majority feel awkward, embarrassed and even a little revolted. Never phone her late at night when drunk, lonely and desperate! If you were responsible for the break-up then it is up to you to make the first move. But if not, if the two of you simply had a nasty squabble about money or sex, give her a little space. Don't pester her with emails and phone calls asking her to explain "where we went wrong". If you do that, not only will you irritate her, but she will believe you are asking so as to avoid the same mistakes in your next relationship.

However, do not go too far in the opposite direction. Excessive pride is fatal during a relationship split. Anyone who tells themselves "she will come crawling back when she realizes what she has lost" is unlikely to enjoy much success. The best impression to give is one of sad dignity. For example, if she sends you a sudden, unexpected text message late one night, pause before you respond. Ask yourself why she is texting. SHe may be feeling lonely and simply want someone to talk to. Do not reply with a long, gushing message about how much you miss her. But don't be cold and unfriendly either. Wait for at least twenty minutes and then text something affectionate but vague. Let her know you still have feelings for her, but make it clear that you are not prepared to be a temporary fix for her loneliness.

If you were entirely to blame for the break-up, it is vital you let her know you are sincerely sorry. A drunken, tearful phone call in the early hours of Saturday morning is inappropriate. In her mind she will dismiss your apology as a lot of alcohol-fuelled nonsense. Meet her somewhere public but quiet where the two of you can relax. When you apologize, either make it from the heart or don't bother. Few things are more offensive to a proud woman than to be hurt and then apologized to in an obviously insincere manner. Take her hand, look into his eyes and, without drama or tears, softly but firmly tell her how sorry you are. Listen to what she then has to say. Don't just wait for her to finish so you can recite the little speech you have prepared.

Finally, do not try to make her jealous. Flirting and even sleeping with other women is not the answer. Attempting to punish and hurt your woman this way will not be forgoitten. If she really loves you, and the two of you try again, she may find it difficult to come to terms with what you did..


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lukeaskewedx2 62M
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12/9/2021 9:29 am

Quite the conversation you got going with yourself, well done.

I reckon so


G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/10/2021 5:21 am

If you live together, provide him with physical space at home. A man cave is a great solution for men who need more space and want individual freedom. A man cave provides a place for a man to be around things that matter to him. To create a man cave, designate a room in the home and fill it with things that your man finds comfortable and enjoys.

The downside is that in some cases a person may request space because they are not sure how to articulate that they no longer want to be in a relationship. Ask your boyfriend if he really wants to break up. When that is the case, the demise of the relationship usually occurs after the requested space. Find out if your boyfriend actually wants to be in the relationship... and save yourself some time.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/10/2021 5:24 am

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One thing I have noticed is that it is all for the man. His space etc., don't we woman want our own space? I know I do.

I need time to do my own thing without a man,
To either clean my home, go out with my female friends, spend time on the computer, it is amazing how much I have learnt from this site.

I also have enjoyed cemmenting what I have learnt by writing a comment on the articles I have read.

The thing I did not like about this article is as I have
already mentioned in short, why is it all to please a man.

What about us ladies, don't we have the right to ask/demand/walk away if it becomes to much, something we need from our relationship, (our needs).

It is not always pleasing a man to me, you become a door mat.
I don't think men really appreciate door mats unless they are control freaks, and

I believe this type of man likes the fight if he does'nt get his own way, so for him it is two fold, so leave him alone, unless you want to be a door mat and punching bag.

In conclusion:

I like my quiet times, space whatever you call it, so I can feel refreshed and ready for the next date (which I will be looking forward to much more after the break for myself).

The lady who was worried about being overweight to me you looked great. You have nothing to worry about, and take my compliment as it is sent to you, with my siincere best wishes, if a man loves you he loves the package you are, the total you, your soul, mentality, and looks

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/11/2021 12:52 am

Let her have her own life too
Even in the early stages, relationships are about give and take. If she loves the fact that you have your own social life outside of dates with her, then you have to return the favor.
If she's hitting the town with the girls, resist the temptation to turn into a jealous boyfriend and assume that she's going to start kissing every handsome men in sight. Your jealously will only push her away. SHe needs to spend time with her friends, both male and female for the same reasons that you do.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/12/2021 12:57 am

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Drunk texting is just as annoying as drunk dialing, and you are sure to say something you'll regret in the morning. Do yourself a favor and put your phone away when the party starts.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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12/12/2021 10:57 pm

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Keep a few things in mind as you fill out your profile, however. For starters, never lie about having a child. It's an important fact about you, and potential dates need to know that you're a parent up front. Check the yes box, and then incorporate one sentence about your little one in your biography. The rest should be about you – what you like to do, what you're searching for, and the things that make you a fun, independent, rockin' individual.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/13/2021 1:35 am

You Aren't Comfortable Being Yourself Around Him
It's completely normal to feel like you have to be on your best behavior for the first few dates, but if you still haven't relaxed a few months into the relationship you might be with the wrong man. The right person should make you feel secure and comfortable, not like you have to put on a show. If you haven't relaxed into the relationship over time, you may want to evaluate whether or not your partner is the best fit for you.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/13/2021 1:36 am

You Don't Feel the Need to Talk About the Big Stuff
You should feel comfortable talking about tough topics with your significant other. If you don't feel like you can talk to him about anything but superficial topics, you're likely dating the wrong man for you. Over the course of a few months plans and topics that are important to you should come up, and you should feel comfortable discussing them honestly. If those topics haven't come up in conversation you may be afraid of rejection, or you may, subconsciously, not see your man in your future. Either way, it's a big red flag that your man isn't the man for you in the long run.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/13/2021 11:22 pm

Don't go digging into her past
If you're curious about your girlfriend's exes, resist the temptation to dig into her past to see what kind of men she dated before you. Don't ask your girlfriend about her exes and the details of their relationship and breakup or how many people she has been with. Doing these things makes you look insecure and you probably don't really want the details anyway. Leave the past where it belongs and enjoy your relationship with your girlfriend.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/15/2021 7:34 am

Have your own life
A secure man doesn't need to cling to his girlfriend and her life. If you're insecure you will want to be with your girlfriend all the time.
You'll want to join her and her friends for activities that you don't particularly like just so that you can keep an eye on her all the time.
A confident man knows that his girlfriend is into him and won't go chasing after every man that crosses her path. Know that she's with you because she likes you and wants to be with you.

Acting like an insecure man is one of the quickest ways to turn a woman off and ruin a potentially good relationship. If you have insecurities, it's a good idea to deal with them before attempting a relationship. No one else, not even a girlfriend, can give you the confidence you need and deserve


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/15/2021 7:41 am

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You simply cannot rely on dating as many women as possible and hoping that one woman will connect with you. The law of averages rarely applies to dating. Just like any subject, successful dating is a skill that can be learned. It's time to be self-critical and break bad habits.
Don't think too much
Tasks are often marred by over-thinking them. When learning a new language, you have to let your words flow and not think about every single syllable that comes out of your mouth. The language of love is no different. Stop playing out scenarios in your head according to how you think she'll react. 'If I ask her if she wants another drink, will she think I'm trying to get her drunk?' 'If I talk about my achievements, will she think I'm egotistical?' If you plan out every single sentence to avoid anticipated offence, you'll lack spontaneity and exude nothing more than dullness. Trust yourself and let the conversation take its natural course.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/15/2021 7:42 am

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Plan how you'll fill awkward silences
You go on dates to get to know one another. You have very little information before meeting a woman, so it's only natural that there will be some silences between conversation topics. Although this is completely natural given the amount of time you've known each other, it can feel awkward. Don't resort to speaking about the subject you know the most about: yourself. She will only think that you're not interested in what she's got to say and that there isn't room in your life for anyone other than yourself. When there's a silence, ask her an open question instead. For example, 'What made you want to do your chosen career?' or, 'How do you like to spend your weekends?' Keep it light so it doesn't appear that you're interrogating her. She will appreciate the opportunity to get the conversation going again and if she's a good date, she'll reciprocate and ask you questions in return.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/15/2021 7:43 am

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You look like you don't care
Appearing nonchalant is very off-putting. This applies to both physical appearance and body language. The women you date will probably have spent time on looking their best, and it's only right that you do the same. Unless you're on an active date, wear a shirt and make sure it's pressed. Make sure that your shoes are polished and in respectable condition. Your hairstyle and facial hair is up to you, but you have to be clean and fresh-smelling with a dazzling smile. Don't fold your arms or lean back in your chair. Make sure that your body is positioned slightly forward and that you make eye contact with your date. It lets her know that you're interested in her and that you care about what she has to say.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/15/2021 7:45 am

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Listen to her
The art of listening is a skill that is lost on many people. Asking questions is a good start, but if you fail to respond appropriately, they can feel like empty words. A common mistake is to ask your date a question, allow her to answer and then respond with own experiences. For example, 'Where did you go on vacation this year?' 'I went to Mexico.' 'I went there in 2010. I went scuba-diving...' Your date will only feel that your questions are a set-up for your own responses and that you're disingenuous. Listen to her responses and let her talk about her experiences. Respond with enquiry and not your own stories.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/16/2021 1:51 am

There are two kinds of men in the world.

One is those who pretend to be moral (Their behavior behind is immoral and underhand in fact), this kind of men are very boring.

Another is those who pretend to be immoral (Their behavior is decent and moral and aboveboard), this kind of men are very lovely.

I really know some men in real life, they look very moral, they talk moral they don't flirt with female. It seems they are so decent and prude, but behind they do dirty things just like animals.

All my friends agree with that I'm the second kind. I can flirt with female friends and even become very good friends but I know the bottom line. I know what I should do and what I should not do. I never do those not suitable for a decent man. So they say I'm lovely.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/17/2021 10:37 pm

Dating is the point in a relationship when you're learning about the other person, finding out if his lifestyle matches yours. During the dating state you also find out important things that could be deal breakers. Sometimes it's easy to ignore little things that your boyfriend does or doesn't do, but sometimes those little things become bigger things. Here are four things that might seem little, but over time might become larger issues for you.

1. Your friends and family don't like him
Your friends and family love you, right? They don't secretly pray that you never find love. They just want you to be with the right guy. Listen to their concerns with an open mind. See if what they say makes sense. Other people will often see things that you don't because they are not as close to the situation as you are. Instead of getting defensive and defending your boyfriend, see if anything they are saying has merit.

2. He lied about something small
Lying about something small and silly is a clear sign he can and likely will lie about something larger. Don't be fooled into thinking that a small lie shouldn't be considered important. If he can't talk to you about smaller issues, he won't have an easier time talking about larger issues.

3. He doesn't call you
Make sure that you're actually giving him a chance to call you. Don't always be the one to bombard him with phone calls, texts and emails. If he doesn't contact you, he may be used to you doing all the work. If you aren't the kind of woman who constantly calls your boyfriend, then he might not be interested. He doesn't need to call you constantly, but it's normal for a dating couple to want to talk to each other.

4. He's jealous
A small amount of jealousy is flattering, but there comes a point when that cute jealousy turns into something much worse. If your boyfriend is asking you to drop all of your male friends, even the ones from your childhood, his jealousy has gone too far. If he doesn't want you to see, speak to or even look at other men, including colleagues, this is no longer simple jealousy. If your boyfriend trusts you, he does not need to isolate you from all people of the opposite sex. Other signs that your boyfriend's jealousy has gone too far include asking you a million questions about a male friend, asking to see your emails with a male friend and accusing you of having feelings for a male friend.

It's important when dating to really look at who you're dating and not the person you wish he was. You can pretend that the issues don't exist, but that only means you'll have to deal with it as a larger problem in the future


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/18/2021 7:26 am

Let her know that you want commitment
If you don't ask, you'll never get. SHe may assume that you're both happily going along with the dating thing and she doesn't want to rock the boat by developing the relationship. It is important to communicate your feelings, but don't overdo it. You only need to talk to her once about your desire to have an exclusive relationship. SHe'll get the message. If you nag her about it repeatedly, she is less likely to take up the offer because you're being pushy. Make it clear that you don't want to move in together at this point but you do want commitment from her.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/18/2021 7:29 am

Make him want to commit
He is more likely to want to make a commitment to you if you are the kind of woman he can see himself in a long-term relationship with. You don't have to take on a new persona to make yourself a more attractive prospect, but you can avoid certain kinds of behaviors that are off-putting. Don't be too clingy. He doesn't want to feel that you are wholly dependant on him to function. Make him aware that you want to be with him, but if he doesn't reciprocate, you are also in a position to move on and find someone else.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/18/2021 7:32 am

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If you're at the stage of wanting to move from dating and into a relationship, you've probably only known each other for a matter of months. Don't expect him to drop down on one knee and whip out a diamond ring. Men often play a slow and steady race when it comes to developing a loving relationship.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/18/2021 7:36 am

If you're not exclusive, date other people
If he really won't budge but you think he's worth sticking around for, it's time to start dating other people. This may feel like a contradiction, but it has multiple benefits. Firstly, it will allow you to confirm to yourself that you are an attractive woman and are quite capable of catching the interest of other men. This will boost your confidence and a confident woman is a woman who men will commit to. Secondly, by dating other men, you may discover that the guy you've been holding out for doesn't actually measure up to the new guys you've met. It'll give you a new perspective on whether he really is the man for you. If you still want a commitment from him, dating other guys will drive him crazy. He'll be reminded that you're a fantastic woman who other men clearly want to spend time with. It might make him realize that making a commitment to you is the only way to keep you in his life.

Don't wait a lifetime for him make a commitment to you. Make him want to commit to you and if you're still left feeling cold, move on and find a man and a relationship that you deserve.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/19/2021 9:48 am

Through dating a jerk you begin to get a sense of what you really want in a man. You may have thought dating a quiet man who held his feelings inside was something you'd be happy with. If you date a man who doesn't tell you what he's thinking and seems incapable of conversation, you'll figure out you want a man who talks more. Dating a jerk who won't help you with your heavy bags when he sees you struggling because he is involved in a video game will show you that you want a man you can count on to help you.

. You'll be able to spot jerks more quickly
Once you decide that you're done dating jerks, being able to spot them quickly comes in very handy. Those qualities that you once found irresistible will now be warning flags. When you're dating in hopes of finding a serious relationship, you don't want to waste time dating the same type of person over and over.

. You'll learn to respect yourself
Dating someone who isn't very nice will help you discover how much you're willing to take before you stand up for yourself and leave. You will grow a backbone through dating a jerk. You will not let another person treat you badly because you know how much it hurts. How many times will you let him call you names before you walk out? How many dates will he be late for before you feel disrespected? Dating a jerk will take you to places you never expected to be and will not want to visit again.

Dating a jerk isn't something you should do for an extended period of time. You also shouldn't do it with the intent of trying to change him. Women tend to have fantasies about turning a bad boy good, but that isn't something that generally happens. Dating a jerk is only beneficial for improving the success of your future relationships in life


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/20/2021 1:42 am

Here are some signs that you have a boyfriend with serious trust issues.

1. he'll call your friends to find out where you are
A man with trust issues may contact your friends and family if he can't get in touch with you when he wants to. If you don't answer him right away, he will get in touch with other people close to you to find out where you are. A man with serious trust issues may not be shy about calling people he's never met to ask where you are.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/20/2021 1:45 am

2. he doesn't want you in contact with other women
We all have to come into contact with the opposite gender at some point during most days. It could be a co-worker, someone who works at the coffee shop, or a fellow commuter. If your boyfriend expects you to avoid all other men except for him, this is an impossible request. His trust issues should never control who is in your life. If you came into the relationship with male friends, your boyfriend with trust issues may expect you to end your friendship with them.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/20/2021 1:50 am


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He may also believe that when you and your group of friends are alone without the boyfriends you are flirting with other men. If he's around he will feel more in control of your actions and who you spend time with.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/20/2021 1:53 am

he freaks out if you don't answer calls or texts immediately

A man with trust issues will automatically assume the worst if you do not answer his texts or phone calls right away. he will give you the third degree about why you didn't answer, who you were with, and why you didn't have your phone with you. A man with trust issues will not understand that you can't always answer his phone calls because you have a job, meetings, and other things you have to attend to first.

A man with trust issues might not be the right boyfriend for you if you're looking for a healthy, stable relationship. You don't want to spend your life catering to his trust issues and insecurities.


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jenfun69 18F
121 posts
12/21/2021 8:05 am

I would love to be caught naked bent over with my head trapped between your legs as you were spanking my ass and by other men


G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/21/2021 10:28 pm

That's right: Men. Cooking is something every guy should know how to do. You don't have to get fancy, but at least knowing the basics is going to be very useful.

1) You won't starve. Unless you have a constant care-taker (as in, you're doing 10-to-life at a supermax prison), sooner or later you'll find yourself in a position where you have to hustle your own dinner. With just a few basic ingredients in the 'fridge and cabinet, you can whip up a nice little dinner for yourself, no problem.

2) You get to fix what you like to eat. There is probably some dish you really crave, but nobody fixes it exactly the way you like it. Or maybe your girlfriend or wife thinks it's a stupid dish and says something like, "You like it so much, then you fix it!" Okay, so you can.

3) You're broke and you can't afford to go out. Restaurants are expensive. Even take-out adds up, if you do it every night. Forget menu prices: The ingredients cost a tenth of that.

4) You can impress your girl. It makes you look self-sufficient and competent. They love that.

5) You have an instant present at your finger-tips. Forgot your mom's birthday again, didn't you? Didn't even get her a card. No problem. Just tell her, "Hey, Mom, tonight I'm going to fix you this great veal over rice dish that I've been perfecting." She'll be impressed. Plus, if you're lucky, she'll even have most of the ingredients, so it won't cost anything.

6) You can take control over your diet. When someone cooks for you, you are at their mercy. If you've just learned that you have this high blood pressure condition and have to watch your salt intake, then you don't have to worry if the restaurant or your wife or roommate is dumping too much into the dish: You decide.

7) You can impress your date at a restaurant. If you order, say, coq au Vin (which is basically chicken legs and thighs stewed in a tomato sauce), you can turn to your date and say something like, "When I fix this dish, I always lightly brown the chicken first. It keeps the meat from becoming too stringy." Add ten points to your score.

You'll never wash dishes again. Unless you're alone when you cook, you can always invoke the most basic law of cooking: "I cooked, you clean."

9) You can get creative. Once you know the basics and have a few recipes memorized (and remember that recipes are just general guidelines, not precisely controlled chemistry experiments), you can try out some ideas of your own. Who knows if a few slices of provolone cheese, some diced onion and a couple of jalapenos on top of a flank steak wouldn't work? Has anybody ever tried? Let's find out...

10) You'll like it. Cooking can be very satisfying and relaxing. Take your time, turn on the radio, pour yourself a beer, assemble your ingredients and just start preparation. Slice a little of this, grate a little of that, make sure the other is trimmed just right. Oven's on? Good. Give it a taste. Eh, needs more pepper, so you get out the grinder... It's a whole creative, calming process, with you in control. Plus, at the end, you get to eat.


goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1559 posts
12/21/2021 10:30 pm

Other comments
While the reasons given in this article seem OK, I think a respectable gentleman ought to know how to cook and be cooking.

Gone are the days when men marry and expect the wife to be the cook, laundromat, house cleaner, etc. Any respectable man ought to do them, cook, do the laundry (including hers), clean the house, shop for her sanitary pad if she is unable to, attend to the baby, etc

The motto is, serve and be served, love and be loved, etc.

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